Marr (Chadwick) n. 1

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 1

1. DE CONJUGIO

ON MARRIAGE I

I

A human being, both male and female, is born to be an image and a likeness of God, n. 1-5.

From the Word, n. I.
The image of God is love and wisdom, and the likeness of God is the form of each, which is the human form or a human being, n. 2-4.
All parts of the body, which are to be enumerated, and all parts of the mind together make up the human form, and nothing must be lacking from them; they are the form of love and wisdom, n. 2.
In order that there may be a form of love and wisdom nothing must be lacking, n. 3; and God is in that form, because he is Divine Love and Wisdom, n. 4.
A person's will is an organ for the reception of love and everything connected with it, and his understanding is an organ for the reception of wisdom and everything connected with it, n. 5.

II

Woman is created to be an image of love, and man is created to be an image of wisdom, n. 6-13
Every individual is an image of both love and wisdom, but is as he or she is as the result of the predominance [of one characteristic], n. 6.
Love and wisdom, good and truth, affection and thought, and will and understanding are all the same, n. 7.
Such is the difference between woman and man, n. 8.
This is unknown in the world; why; n. 9.
Woman is described as being an image of love or affection for good, n. 10.
Man is described as being an image of wisdom or understanding of truth, n. 11.
A confirmation from experience in a street where there were boys and girls, n. 12.
...that it is so.

III

The marriage of love and wisdom, that is, good and truth is the actual origin of marriage between man and wife, that is, in an and woman, n. 14.
It is called a marriage of good and truth from which marriages proceed, because good and truth are very general words, n. 14.
They are called husband and wife, and man and woman, because by husband and wife is meant the wisdom of love and the love of wisdom; and by man is meant the truth of good, by woman the good of truth.

ON MARRIAGE II

On the representation of conjugial love by the most beautiful objects

Truly conjugial love is represented in heaven by various means. It is represented by diamond auras, glistening as if with rubies and garnets, also by the most beautiful rainbows and showers of gold, the sight of which fills by-standers with such pleasure and delight that their minds are stirred to their depths. I have heard the angels in the gardens of heaven when conjugial love was so represented, and they said that they were filled with such delight that they could not express it otherwise than by saying it was delight itself, from which all other delights sprang as from their origin. They said that this was pure mental delight, without any arousing of lust. For such is conjugial love in origin.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 2

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 2

2. Since truly conjugial love in origin is pure mental delight itself, and that is the fundamental of all loves; and since it is from love that the angels in heaven have all their beauty, for love or the affection of love forms each individual, which results in every angel's face being a likeness of his love or affection; therefore all the beauty of the angels in heaven comes from their conjugial love, for it is the source of the inmost part of their life, which shines through. I saw an angel who was in pure conjugial love; he was from the third heaven, and he was so beautiful that the by-standers were struck with wonder, saying that this was the essence of beauty itself.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 3

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 3

3. The reason why truly conjugial love is such beauty and also such delight is from its first origin, which is the union of the Lord's Divine Love with His Divine Wisdom, and the marriage of the Lord with heaven and the Church; and from this the marriage of good and truth in each individual. These origins of truly conjugial love will be described in the appropriate places.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 4

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 4

4. Truly conjugial love contains no lasciviousness at all

Those who do not know what truly conjugial love is, and are not in that state, may think that it cannot exist without lasciviousness. However, there is as big a gap between them as there is between heaven and hell. For the pleasure may appear externally the same, but all externals get their quality and essence from internals; and the internal of conjugial love is from the Lord, and by this means from heaven, and from all its pleasantness and happiness. But the internal of lasciviousness or adultery is from the devil, and so from hell, and from all its unpleasantness and unhappiness. Every external gets its essence from internals, and consequently so does the external of conjugial love, and so does the external of adultery, and these are not alike. The external of conjugial love is full of all the delights of heaven, and the pleasure of heaven which is in that love casts out all the pleasure of hell. Thus those two which are in outward form pleasures are totally different as the result of their internals. The angels also clearly perceive from the sphere of love of two married persons whether it contains any lasciviousness; and in accordance with its quality and quantity they move away from them. The reason angels move away so far is that the lasciviousness of adultery communicates with the hells, but the chastity of marriage with heaven.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 5

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 5

5. Truly conjugial love is chastity itself

Celibacy in the heavens is not called chastity, nor is a young girl described as chaste, nor an unmarried woman, nor a virgin. But chaste is applied to a wife who loathes adultery. In the same way a husband who loathes adultery. For in heaven truly conjugial love is what is called chastity.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 6

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 6

6. Conjugial love is innocence itself

Married couples who are in conjugial love appear in heaven as innocent.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 7

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 7

7. Conjugial love is love to the Lord

All who are in truly conjugial love are in love to the Lord, because it comes down from the Lord's marriage with the Church. This is why those who are in the third heaven, who are all in love to the Lord, are in truly conjugial love. Truly conjugial love cannot be conferred except by the Lord.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 8

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 8

8. A married couple in heaven make a single angel

There is in heaven between each man and wife a conjunction like that in each person between the will and the understanding, or between good which is of the will and truth which is of the understanding; because a woman is by nature affection, which is of the will, and a man is by nature thought, which is of the understanding. Further on this subject in the work on HEAVEN AND HELL.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 9

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 9

9. On those whose aim in marriage is lasciviousness such as exists in adultery

I saw some women in a sort of kitchen, which contained a dark chimney without a fire in the hearth, with butcher's knives in their hands, with which they seemed to want to murder babies. They were deceitful, sly and malicious, all prostitutes, secretly alluring men from all sides. When they were inspected by angels they appeared like two globes full of intestines; one was foully bloody, the other was an ugly yellow. This was the representation of their lusts when inspected by angels. They were all the sort of women who enter into matrimony only for the sake of committing adultery with others, because then they are not afraid of losing their reputations by having an illegitimate child, which they attribute to the husband. Their lot is very hard; everything there is filthy; they live in caves, and are afraid of being seen on account of their ugliness and deformity; nor can they any longer entice any adulterer, because they are ugly and have a fetid stench. Men, however, whose aim in marriage was adultery, and who subsequently lived with adulteresses, form such a distaste for their wives that they run away from them. They eventually become impotent and their thought and speech become lifeless in the company of wives, and each one especially in the company of his own wife.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 10

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 10

10. On the mice

Lascivious wives, and also unmarried women who have thought nothing of prostitution, live in two places; some further forward in the western region and others further back. There live all those who know how to ingratiate themselves with men by the pretence of affection. By this means they acquire the lascivious love of some man, caring not at all whether their affections are good or bad. Those who live further forward were deceitful and sly, clever enough to spy out the nature, mind, inclination, and desire of the men they wished to entice; particularly clever at robbing a man of his wealth so that they might for a while live in luxury. They live there in caves; everything there smells foul, and where they live smells like places where there are mice. When seen by angels they even appear like large mice. I heard some people who were in their caves say that there was a smell of mice, and that these women's places were smelly and dirty, but that they knew how to make themselves beautiful by imagination, and to adorn their places with various fittings. But they could only do this for a few moments, for as soon as their imagination flags, the appearances cease and then everything is foul. It is also said that they delight in that foulness and dirt; the more the deeper they are. The reason for their delight is due to the correspondence with such a life. I saw these women many times, even when by imagination they made themselves appear beautiful; they then appeared magnificently dressed and lovely in face; but as soon as their imaginative thought was removed, which is effected by a good spirit or an angel, they look as ugly as devils, some black, some horribly flame-coloured, some like corpses. I also often saw what looked like large mice with long tails; that was the appearance of their lusts. The extraordinary thing is that there are some spirits of either sex who appear from their passions like cats. Those mice are afraid of them just as mice on earth are afraid of cats. Those who appear like cats are those who have paid no heed to religious matters, apart from merely hearing of them without retaining anything of them. I saw that there were in their caves wives of noble birth, in fact, of men who belonged to the loftiest nobility. But all there are set to work, and none of them can come out or be permitted to escape, because they surpass other spirits in slyness, and enter into men s affections secretly and allure their minds. They are particularly clever at this, so they are shut up so closely that eventually they dare not so much as poke a finger out.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 11

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 11

11. Those, however, who live further down in the western region are similar and even more numerous. They are the unmarried women who have given themselves up to prostitution, and spent their whole lives in that trade. There is a similar smell of mice there, but it is not so rank; they too appear like mice, but smaller ones. The caverns where they are seem to run in rings beneath the ground, one cavern below the other. There is a vast number there.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 12

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 12

12. I saw the larger mice when a preacher came to them. Then by their power of imagination they hold a psalter in their hands, and watch certain women from whom they learn what responses to make, so that they seem to make them of themselves. This is a trick, and they then pretend to be devout, when they are not devout at all. Thus they deceive the preachers. But they do this at the doors; inside the caverns they do not respond because they cannot there watch the women from whom they get the responses.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 13

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 13

13. Various facts about marriage and adultery

(1) Marriage is heaven and adultery is hell.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 14

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 14

14. (2) Marriage comes down from the marriage of good and truth, but adultery from the marriage of evil and falsity.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 15

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 15

15. (3) Therefore there exists priestly adultery, which is similar to outward appearance.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 16

16. (4) In heaven they abhor adultery, and therefore heaven is closed to adulterers; hell opens wide in accordance with the quality and quantity of adultery.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 17

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 17

17. (5) Man by conjugial love receives the form of love in his mind and thence in his body; so he receives the form of heaven.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 18

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 18

18. Man by adultery receives the form of adultery and thus the form of hell.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 19

19. (6) Conjugial love is the fundamental of all heavenly loves; it is a likeness of heaven and thus of the Lord.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 20

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 20

20. (7) Heavenly joy is founded upon conjugial love.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 21

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 21

21. (8) Consequently the heavenly joys, which the angels have only from this source, are countless, and hardly one of that countless number is known in the world, because today adultery reigns there, even as a result of falsity of doctrine; but they were known in part to the most ancient men.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 22

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 22

22. (9) The wisdom of the angels increases by marriages, which there take the place of procreation. There is therefore a procreation of wisdom. This is why daughters and sons and father and mother mean in the Word the things which belong to good and truth, thus the things that belong to wisdom. Passages from the Word to be cited.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 23

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 23

23. (10) As a result of adulteries all ignorance and foolishness in spiritual matters increases, because there is a marriage of falsity and evil. The falsification and adulteration of the truth and good of the Word is there meant by whorings; to be cited from the Word.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 24

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 24

24. (11) To love one's wife or husband is to do good in the Lord's eyes, for this is chastity itself; and the Church itself is called a virgin and a daughter, as the daughter and virgin of Zion and Jerusalem; passages to be cited.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 25

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 25

25. (12) Conjugial love communicates with the heavens, and the genital organs have correspondence with the third heaven, above all, the womb; concerning this correspondence.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 26

26. Intercourse from conjugial love also produces communication.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 27

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 27

27. (13) That love arises solely from the Lord's influx through the third heaven.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 28

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 28

28. (13a) The third heaven is the conjugial of heaven; therefore marriages are most sacred in the heavens, and adulteries are regarded as profanations.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 29

29. (14) What acts constitute adulteries; to be enumerated.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 30

30. (15) Conjugial love grows in power and effect for ever, so that eventually it becomes love in respect of all power and effect, and thus the life of their minds. But with adulterers love decreases in power and effect, so that it eventually becomes impotence and a stock with hardly any life.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 31

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 31

31. (16) No one can be in conjugial love unless he is spiritual by fighting against evils and their falsities, and unless he acknowledges the Lord [and] His Divine.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 32

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 32

32. (17) Wife and husband are mentally joined as one flesh. She is my bone and my flesh, as Adam said.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 33

33. (18) Conjugial love continually unites, so that they may be one.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 34

34. (19) Conjugial love depends upon the wife's love, and such too is the husband's love reciprocally; the wife's love does not depend on her husband's love. The reason is that just as the will acts on the understanding, good acts on truth; that is why it is said that a man ought to cleave to his wife. The reverse is true of those who are not in conjugial love.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 35

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 35

35. (to) A wife wishes to think and will what her husband does, and a husband what his wife does, and because each wishes this, each is led by the Lord as if they were one, and the two are a single angel. For when one's will and understanding is not one's own, but another's, and this is mutually so in turn, they cannot but be led by the Lord as if one.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 36

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 36

36. (21) Hereditary evil as the result of adulteries becomes more damaging day by day; this is because of adulteries which are regarded as allowable.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 37

37. (22) Adulteries are very filthy, as call be evident from the face that the man's semen as to its spiritual and even as to its inner natural applies itself to the woman's body; for the man's life is in it. When therefore the lives of several men enter at once, does this not cause filthiness and interior rottenness?

Marr (Chadwick) n. 38

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 38

38. (23) An example: a certain person formed such disgust for his wife, when he merely had doubts about God and the Word, that he could not bear to see her; he was a priest.*
* Two words added at this point are indecipherable; possibly I (Swedish = in) and a place-name.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 39

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 39

39. (24) The angels of heaven in direct conversation confirmed that conjugial love is such a love, that there is such a delight, that they have such wisdom, that there is heaven in it, and that they are to that extent human beings. - Afterwards they looked into hell, and said that there is all filth, and that the worst adulterers and adulteresses appear like swine and hogs, and like swine and hogs they take delight in dung; and they said that one of them was so delighted with dung that he wanted to eat it. This is a coincidence with the prophet who was ordered to make himself a cake of excrement.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 40

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 40

40. (25) By means of conjugial love the interiors of the mind are opened, because there is influx into that love from the Lord through the third heaven; thus man becomes capable of receiving all heavenly loves and also truths.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 41

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 41

41. (26) In conjugial love is the inmost of conscience.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 42

42. On conjugial love with the angels

I spoke about conjugial love with angels. They said that it is the inmost of all loves, and is such that a married person sees his partner in his animus and mind;* to such an extent that his spiritual image is there, and consequently the married person has his partner as it were within him. This is cohabitation in the spiritual sense, and this is represented by angelic ideas which cannot be expressed. This is the source of their delightful unions.
* Latin: in suo animo et in sua mente. Both words mean 'mind' but are sometimes distinguished by Swedenborg.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 43

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 43

43. One man, one wife

In the Christian world, where the interiors of the Church are revealed, and where the Lord is worshipped, and it is known that heaven and the Church are from Him, and that the Church is joined with Him as a wife with her husband; and that there is only one Church, and that there is to be a conjunction of good and truth among those who are of that Church; it is not permitted to marry several wives, for this would be a perversion of the spiritual which is to be, or can be, in marriage. Therefore if a Christian were to marry several wives, it would be as if he had two Churches with him, or as if truth were to draw its essence from two goods, with which marriage is impossible, for good is the being (esse) of truth, and the being (esse) or essence of one truth from two goods is impossible. This is why truly conjugial love cannot possibly exist between one man and several wives. For in this case there would be some lasciviousness which would enter. Moreover love cannot be divided, since it is from one person's affection, which is of the will, agreeing with the other's thought, which is of the understanding; and this unanimity and cohabitation, which makes the essence of conjugial love, is impossible [with several wives]. In short, the Christian Church is not among them; therefore when an angel in heaven so much as thinks about several wives, everything celestial and angelic with him dies, his joy as much as his wisdom, and he falls from heaven.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 44

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 44

44. There were seen some of the Christians who had formed a conviction in favour of polygamy. There were several thousand in one society, for it is the likeness of love which makes a society, and conjugial love is the fundamental of all loves, and when the Last Judgment was taking place, that region appeared as if swallowed up by hell. It was said afterwards that they knew nothing of their genital organs, as if they had been without them. It was said they had convinced themselves from the Jewish culture of the Old Testament that they were then permitted to have several wives, but it is permitted everywhere in Mohammedan countries. The reason why this was permitted to the Jews is that they were external men, inwardly idolaters, lacking the internals of the Church; nor were these open to them, which is why they did not recognize the Lord. The situation among the Mohammedans will be discussed below.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 45

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 45

45. In short, several wives and one man cannot become one flesh, that is, one mind, which is made up of the will and the understanding. The marriage of these two or - -* makes marriage in its very existence; for all things in the universe have reference to the marriage of good and truth, and so to marriage, in order that they may be something and bring forth something. And marriage itself in its own form from its own essence is produced in man together with his mate and likewise in an angel.
* Two words here unreadable.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 46

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 46

46. On the plurality of wives among Mohammedans

I spoke with Mohammedans about spiritual marriage, saying that it is a marriage of good and truth that good loves truth and truth good like a married couple; and that these wish to be joined and bring forth goods and truths like daughters and sons, and as it were to procreate families. They understood this well, as also that conjugial love comes down from that spiritual origin, and that everything spiritual in man undergoes a change, so that it is scarcely recognisable, when it comes down to the natural; it can only be recognised by correspondences. From these facts it is plain that they, having several wives allowed by their religion, cannot have truly conjugial love. It was said that they are allowed several wives, that is, polygamy is permitted, because they live in hot climates and therefore are more heated with lust than those who live in cold climates.* Therefore if they were not permitted polygamy, more of them would rush into adultery than would Europeans, and thus act contrary to their religious tenets; and to act contrary to one's religious tenets is to profane what is sacred. It was shown further that all their love of marriage is lascivious, and so not spiritual; nor can it become spiritual unless they acknowledge the Lord.
* Two clauses have been inverted, with suppression of the word 'and' in order to make sense here. It is also possible that a word is missing from the text.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 47

47. Their lot in the other life is this. At first they take several wives as well as concubines there as they did in the world, but because in the spiritual world there is conjunction of minds, and those who disagree in mind cannot remain together, but they separate of their own accord, and eventually they mate with a woman of similar mind, thus by degrees they separate from their wives, and finally are united with one, with whom their mind agrees. Moreover, those who persist in polygamy in course of time become so weak and impotent that they become disgusted with marriage, for this is the effect of lasciviousness.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 48

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 48

48. Those of them who are in the heaven of the Mohammedans have only one wife, having rejected more. For there is a Mohammedan heaven distinct from the Christian heaven. But those who eventually, as many do, acknowledge the Lord as one with the Father are separated and are in heavens which communicate with the Christian heavens; and they have conjugial love.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 49

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 49

49. They heard conjugial love described by angels in its delights and pleasures, and that it lasts to eternity, with unending variety of delights and pleasures; and they were amazed. Consequently many of them received faith concerning the Lord and were sent among the angels of the Christian heaven. They were instructed about the Lord and in the doctrine of love and faith in Him.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 50

50. The state of married couples after death

Virtually everyone who was married in the world either meets his wife after death, if she died first, or waits for her. When they meet, they investigate each other to find what their affection for each other had been; if there had been no mutual affection, they depart of their own accord, for two dissimilar affections and thoughts cannot be brought together, since all affections and consequently thoughts are communicated. If there is not agreement, great discomfort follows, and breathing becomes painful, and a kind of discordant panting, to such an extent that they are forced to separate; and they then associate with others according to their likeness.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 51

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 51

51. Those who lived in celibacy continue for long to live thus; but if in the world they desired to get married, they too finally enter upon marriage.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 52

52. Those who are unable to wait for their married partner, whether male or female, consort meanwhile with another similar to themselves. But then he is granted to perceive that it is the same married partner whom he had in the world; but this relationship is dissolved, since there had not been a betrothal or wedding, when the true married partner arrives. For then from cohabitation in the world he has no difficulty in recognising his partner and he who wishes remains with his own partner, as was said before.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 53

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 53

53. All marriages of angels in heaven are provided for by the Lord, Who alone knows the likeness of minds which will last for ever, and then the one at first sight acknowledges that he has found his mate, for it is likeness of minds that brings them together.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 54

54. But in hell there are no marriages, though there are adulteries. In the hellish societies there the men are separated from the women, and when they think that they will speak with their wife, according to their custom adopted in the world, they go across to the women; and then he is given the false belief that this or that is his woman, with whom he then consorts. This belief is not constant, but this does not matter, because in hell marriage does not exist, only adultery.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 55

55. On those who outwardly live modestly and chastely, but have lascivious thoughts

Some women were seen from a distance, of whom it was said that in the world they had lived as virgins and had shunned matrimony for the sake of chastity, saying that marriages were unchaste in themselves, and comparing them with lawful fornication. It was said that even the majority of them were from nunneries, professing chastity for the sake of heaven or eternal salvation. They appeared from a distance as naked, because chastity and innocence are represented in the spiritual world by nakedness, which is also a mark of a blameless life and one free from fornication. But it was noticed that after death they spent their time in hiding far off with adulterous men, taking great care not to be seen. But when they were plainly caught, then with a mocking laugh they tear themselves away and run. There was then felt the ardour of the men who desired them as wives, because they thought them more chaste and harmless than the rest. It was said that they were unusually obscene and took delight in unspeakable lasciviousness. They were women who privately had had the most wanton thoughts.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 56

56. It was said of them that after some time they contract an insuperable distaste for marriages, and conjugial love is destroyed; they are filled with disgust, and this after they have long been foul and utterly shameless prostitutes, because then the external is removed and the internal acts; and their internal without the external is then released from inhibition by shame.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 57

57. Those women who have made a pretence of outward piety and been given to devotion, and are thus religious, because they become profane and have mixed adultery with their lovers with sanctity, which results in profanation, these finally appear as bony skeletons.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 58

58. Dominating behaviour in marriages destroys conjugial love; and about the Dutch women

On the love of dominating in marriages; it destroys all truly conjugial love, because conjugial love is such that one wishes to think and will as the other, and the other as the first, so that one does not dominate, only the Lord. That is the source of the delight of conjugial love.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 59

59. Care is taken in the societies there that wives should not dominate their husbands. The men there live on one side and the women or wives on the other, and when the men so desire, they send and summon their wives, and subsequently part and live separately. If the wives take offence at this and are angry and assail their husbands, when they are summoned to serve and obey them, they are then sent out of the society, and wander through various places, being given a desire to depart and leave their husbands. While they thus wander, they meet at every turn a blockage or obstacle, such as a marshy place, water or a wall, and so on. As this continues, their wish to depart is lessened, and they do this until they get tired and eventually return to their society, and to the lodging where they were formerly. This is how the Dutch women are trained.

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Marriage (Chadwick) n. 60

60. On the agony those from hell suffer as the result of an influx of conjugial love

Every influx from heaven causes the inhabitants of hell agony. Therefore hell is distant from heaven, and is shut up all round, so that no influx may be felt. The reason is that they are in the opposite love, and just as infernal love causes the inhabitants of heaven agony, so heavenly love does the inhabitants of hell. But the heavenly influence is the stronger; hence hell is kept as far away as possible. This is meant by Abraham's statement in the Gospel that there is a gulf which cannot be crossed.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 61

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 61

61. But it is the influx of conjugial love from heaven which causes the inhabitants of hell the greatest agony. I have seen spirits bound for hell when they were still in the world of spirits, which lies mid-way; these on feeling the influx of conjugial love are taken with fits of madness so that they behave like furies. They also suffer agonies like snakes in ant-hills, twisting their bodies and guts hither and thither, like one who is tortured by a dreadful internal pain. They said their pain was the greatest possible. The reason is that the love of marriage and the love of adultery are diametrically opposite, and conjugial love is itself heaven, and the love of adultery is hell. The love flows into their externals and causes agony to their internals.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 62

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 62

62. The infernal marriage

This is when one wishes to dominate, and the other is unwilling to be subservient; this produces within internecine hatred. This was represented by things too frightful to describe. They long for nothing but the other's death and torment. They are therefore separated and live separately in hell, and in adultery, as said above (about Charles XII).*
* This note appears to have been added subsequently.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 63

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 63

63. On those who treacherously attack conjugial love

I heard from such people many tricks and secret devices by which to entice chaste wives into adultery. I saw more devices than in the world - men making bids for their favour, and of the husband, flattering both and particularly the husband; men putting on a show of intimate friendship, finding out the wife's desires and wishes, whether she expresses them openly or against her will, besides a thousand other things. But such men are sent not long after death to a hell situated under the rear part of the province of the knee; there they sink deep down and are entirely shut in, so that there is not even any hole by which they can see out of their person; for they are a danger to conjugial love, which is most holy. They are there set to work; they have prostitutes in place of wives.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 64

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 64

64. Those who have the itch for rape, and get pleasure from raping, are sent down into a cadaverous hell, from which is emitted a stench as if from corpses, which causes vomiting; it does so with me.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 65

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 65

65. They practise their treachery by love towards children. They were seen to rise from the earth in front of Gehenna, almost invisible, continuously removing obstacles, so that they could enter chaste homes. They love these, not unchaste ones. They can put on different appearances, and they also have the trick of projecting themselves by their thoughts, as if they were elsewhere, and thus of entering. They also put on an appearance of innocence, and preach chastity, praising it highly. They pursue friendships in various ways, to such a point that they are praised and loved, and if the wife is in the secret and desires it, she is praised. They talked with me and said that they were surprised that people exist who are so conscientious as to say that this is contrary to conscience, charity, and religion. They were so deluded as to see no evil, let alone filth, in it. They even talked sensibly about marriage. Their hell too is forward beneath the buttocks amid a foul smell of excrement. Because they are deceitful, making a pretence of chastity, innocence, friendship, and so on, when reduced to their internals, which are adulteries, they undergo vastation to such a point that they appear as ugly devils. They have little that is human left in their internals; they become foolish, because they are opposed to the holiness of heaven.

They mock and laugh at those who call marriages holy and adulteries profane, or actually not allowed.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 66

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 66

66. Truly conjugial love is naked

It is the angels of the third heaven who above all are in the heavenly marriage, for they are in love to the Lord, and consequently in the marriage of good and truth. For this reason they are more than other angels in conjugial love, innocence, and chastity. They walk about out of doors with a girdle about their loins, but go without the girdle at home. Yet in their nakedness they see their wives as wives without any lasciviousness. They said that seeing their wives clothed takes away the idea of marriage. What is remarkable, nakedness does not excite or fire them, yet there is a kind of external bond of conjugial love. They lie together in bed as they were created, and sleep like that. They say they could not do otherwise, because conjugial love itself which is perpetual brings them together; and thus the life of one communicates with the life of the other, and the wife makes the husband's life her own. So it is as we read of Adam when he saw Eve his wife: 'Behold my bone and my flesh'; as also that they were naked and not ashamed, that is, there was no lasciviousness. But as soon as through his wife Adam departed from love to the Lord, which is meant by the tree of life in the garden (on which see there and on Revelation [ii 7], which happened through acting of themselves and from their proprium, that is, from the knowledge and pleasure of the natural man, then the marriage of good and truth was destroyed; hence nakedness became lascivious when the chastity of marriage ceased; and that is why they were ashamed of their nakedness and dressed themselves in fig-leaves, and afterwards in sheepskins. Hence nakedness in the Word is understood as standing for lasciviousness such as that of adultery as...[Rev. iii 18, xvi 15]*
* The sentence is left unfinished.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 67

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 67

67. In the remaining heavens below the third all appear clothed and are also ashamed at being seen naked by others since it excites lasciviousness. They have not such delight in marriage as in the third heaven; and in the lowest heaven there is also some coldness, though not as in the world.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 68

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 68

68. I was carried by the Lord by changes of state towards the left, to a certain mountain, where all were naked, wives and husbands. I talked with them at a distance, and they said that all there of either sex were naked, yet no one felt any lascivious lust or desire at the sight of nakedness, though each husband loved his wife tenderly. They said too they could not be together with those who were clothed. They said that the reason was they were all chaste in mind, since they had been so in the world. When a newcomer of such a type arrives from the world, they test him, which is done by his taking off his clothes and stripping himself; then they perceive at once whether he has the true conjugial; and, if not, he is driven away with punishment. They drive them off with blows until they disappear, which they do to a great depth. There was one who thought he was in similar conjugial love, because in the world he had lived chastely with his wife, and had had nothing to do with prostitutes. To begin with he could look on naked women without any emotion; but when he remained gazing for some time, he was deprived of his senses at the sight nakedness, and finally at the touch of it, and remained speechless as if half dead. He was therefore driven away. The reason was that he was not in love to the Lord, and not in the marriage of good and truth. They said that few could come near, because the sphere of conjugial love is such that others cannot endure it. They said that they live in houses with men and women servants who are all married.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 69

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 69

69. The angels of the third heaven live on mountains, which are not stony but made of earth; there are paradises on them and sylvan gardens. The mountains rise to a peak; the best and most chaste live at the highest level, and so progressively downwards according to their degrees in marriage, spiritual and spiritual-natural. They are also distinguished according to points of the compass; the east where they are in love, the south where they are in wisdom.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 70

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 70

70. Conjugial love comes down from the marriage of good and truth

It became known to me from long experience that no one has conjugial love unless he is in the love of truth from good, and in the love of good by means of truth, that is, in the heavenly marriage; and that he cannot be in any mutual love of good and truth unless he shuns adultery and loathes it like hell. This holds even for those who have lived in marriage in the world and have loved their wife for the sake of cohabitation, the pleasure of life on earth for the sake of children. For celestial things ought to flow into conjugial love, and man comes into his celestial and spiritual things after death, and then becomes completely as he was formerly in that respect; it cannot be otherwise.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 71

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 71

71. Conjugial love makes man be love

Man is created to be love and consequently wisdom, since the Lord is Divine Love and Divine Wisdom. It is by creation that man is an image and likeness of the Lord, Genesis, Chap. i [26, 27]; and this could not happen without true conjugial love. By this man's all can be turned into love, for in marriage either may love from the heart the body too, and thus dispose the soul and consequently everything to the form of love. This is not otherwise possible; the inmost and the outermost there make one and bring about that form, which is the form of heaven.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 72

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 72

72. The examination of spirits by means of conjugial love

The spirits recently arrived in the spiritual world are examined above all to see if they are hostile to conjugial love. They are brought to places where the sphere of conjugial love passes by, or to chaste married couples. If they then change countenance and show annoyance, and even more if they then have lascivious thoughts, still more if they speak lasciviously, then it is a sign that they are of an infernal disposition; but if they are then glad and happy it is a sign that they are of a heavenly disposition. This is the test whether they belong to heaven or to hell; those who are hostile to conjugial love belong to hell, those who are in favour of it, to heaven.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 73

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 73

73. On adulteries resulting from faith separated from charity

I was in the company of those who have convinced themselves of faith separated from charity, not only as a matter of doctrine but also in their lives, believing that they were to be saved by faith alone, even [in the hour] of death, however they had lived; and thus that all evils are either not regarded by God the Father, or are excused on account of man's weakness, or are forgiven, and when forgiven are also wiped out, having regard to the Lord's merit by the fulfilment of the law. They also believe that by the passion of the cross He took away the sins of the world and the condemnation of the law, and other things which their doctrine dictates. I noticed when I was in their company that, when we talked of that faith, there appeared among those with whom they were in communication the most obscene representations of unspeakable adultery, such as that of a son with his mother. The actual sphere is such that it is perceived by spiritual communication. They act upon the back of the head, and thus enter the thought. Their presence causes pain in the left knee.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 74

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 74

74. The reason such adultery is felt by them is that they think about God, the Lord, salvation and everlasting life, and they confirm things from the Word which are consequently spiritual; and because they cannot have the slightest faith unless it is conjoined with some love, and with them the conjunction is with a purely natural love and its lusts; and the conjunction of faith with evil love causes this adultery. They think about faith from a life of evil, and when they are in the pleasures of earthly and bodily love. From this results the conjunction of faith or truth with evil. There is a spiritual element which is as it were the mother of faith, and the evil is the son.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 75

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 75

75. I saw hordes of them cast out into the hells, and more into deserts, when everything of faith is being taken away from them. They live there like wild beasts, and when everything of faith has been taken from them, they are then almost deprived of the power of reason.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 76

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 76

76. Why it is in the Christian world more than elsewhere that adulteries are not regarded with abhorrence

The gentiles wonder why in the Christian world adultery and fornication are considered by many, in fact by most people, as allowable, although their religion from the Word of either Testament condemns such to hell. But the reason was given that few live in accordance with their religious belief, but they have embraced the doctrine that faith saves, and thus that it is thinking, not living, which saves; and because truth is thus conjoined with evil, as a result of the consequent influx from hell adulteries are loved, and accepted; and they also excuse them. For with them the influx of hell is stronger than the influx of heaven. The sphere of adultery also closes heaven, and when heaven is closed hell is opened; so the origin is from the falsity of their religions. It is different with those who treat religion as being expressed in life and at the same time in doctrine.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 77

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 77

77. The sphere of adultery

While they are speaking against the truths and goods of faith and charity, a sphere of prostitution and adultery is produced, and then adulterers assemble there, like crows around a corpse, and take delight in that stench. This fills the sphere with such and other obscenities as to make a good man shudder.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 78

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 78

78. On adulterers and their hells

Their hells are below the buttocks, and are excrementitious. They long to emerge from them and come into the world, but in vain, because they had loved earthly and bodily things. There appeared from there as it were a belching forth and uprising, there is such striving.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 79

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 79

79. Adulteries in the Christian world

There are there many of noble family and the highest station, and not so many from the common people, because they have accepted as a principle that marriages are for the sake of offspring, so what does it matter whether they are defiled by others! They laugh at the sanctity of marriage, calling others simpletons. Such people were raised from the hells in large numbers and put into the state in which they were in the world. They asked where were there beautiful wives, and when shown rushed as if mad or frenzied, to try to enter their homes, but in their blind lust they were carried to a place where the ground gaped open, and the crowd fell down into a hell; this was behind the back.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 80

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 80

80. On the influx of adultery from genii

I passed through a hell where there were deceitful adulterers, interiorly in a state of vastation; and it was then permitted them to influence the affections of my will, and with such subtlety, artifice, and ingenuity to upset, pervert, and blot out my thoughts in favour of chastity, and to induce the pleasure of and desire for adultery; they paid attention to every impulse of thought from affection, persuading tacitly. This was done with me so that I might know that man of himself can by no means resist the pleasure of adultery, except from the Lord. For they act upon the hereditary life within the thought, in such a way that man can by no means notice it. I was then granted by the Lord an interior perception of their efforts.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 81

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 81

81. Priestly whoring

This is done particularly by those who have confirmed the falsities of doctrine from the Word, and have thus falsified and adulterated the Word. The reason is that the Word is marriage, corresponds to marriage, and is spiritual in itself; and the pleasure of natural love falsifies it, especially in preachers.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 82

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 82

82. Those who read the Word without doctrine - those who cannot avoid falling into many fallacies from the sense of the letter, which is in accordance with appearances in man's sight, and who have at the same time absorbed many falsities and convinced themselves of them, and who at the same time are consequently proud of their own intelligence - these produce adultery as of a father with his daughter-in-law.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 83

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 83

83. Those who convince themselves that all evils are forgiven by the Holy Supper without any repentance and change of life, and who do evils believing that afterwards the evil or their sins are taken away by the Holy Supper their adultery is as with a maternal aunt.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 84

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 84

84. Since the Jewish nation by its traditions falsified everything in the Word it was called by the Lord an adulterous nation.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 85

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 85

85. When charity is acknowledged but not faith, and still the life of charity is not led, though they still read the Word, this is adultery as of a sister with her brother. These are they who go often to Church, pray there devoutly, and care nothing for evils of life, such as thefts, secret stealing, adulteries, hatred, revenges, cursing of enemies and those who do not readily consent. With a sister.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 86

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 86

86. The love of self, especially of ruling, and still thinking from the Word is adultery such as there was at Sodom; which is why they demanded the angels from Lot's house.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 87

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 87

87. Those who talk much about God, and still think nothing of deceiving men and plundering their goods, commit adultery with maid-servants, whom they often change.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 88

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 88

88. On the hells of adulterers

They have a large number of hells in accordance with the various kinds of adultery.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 89

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 89

89. I saw prostitutes who hid themselves in the western region and blocked the roads so that they could not be approached except when they wished. I was taken to that place, and they were prostitutes who were all cast into a swampy lake, far behind the back to the west. These were those who had been openly prostitutes.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 90

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 90

90. Those who had plied their trade secretly, without other people knowing, and remained such to the end of their lives, were cast into a gloomy cavern towards the west.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 91

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 91

91. Some prostitutes of noble family who were intelligent and able to reason about God are cast into a swampy lake in the southern district.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 92

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 92

92. Other prostitutes who could steal men by tricks unknown in the world, driving them into their proprium by praises and by drowning their minds in themselves; and because the men were then without protection from the Lord, they were attracted to these women these women were cast into a place as it were burning with brimstone and fire, or so it appeared. They lived in the south-west region; and similar men were cast into a gloomy abyss close under the lake of the women. The women bewitch men, and the men women, by diabolical tricks, which are numerous. It is not permitted to enumerate them.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 93

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 93

93. Those who are spiritually adulterous are distinguished from those who are naturally adulterous. The latter, if they have taken pleasure in adulteries and no pleasure in marriages are shut out of heaven and are sent to hells. But the spiritually adulterous, although they feel there is nothing in adulteries which is not allowed, are all the same examined, and some are reformed; others are given places in accordance with their lives.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 94

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 94

94. There are some in excrementitious hells who have been given to variety, and by this have extinguished the conjugial, and are at the same time voluptuaries; these are in the province of the intestines, underneath them, where there are lavatories everywhere and a foul smell; and everywhere there are caverns from which this smell escapes.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 95

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 95

95. Those who have adopted the practice of sharing wives are tied up as it were into a bundle; and the bundle is tied round with a long snake, and they are cast into a pit which is outside the spiritual world of this planet.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 96

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 96

96. Those who seduce through a pretence of piety, and thus persuade themselves that adulteries are not contrary to the Christian life, are sent to Gehenna, from which is perceived a stench as of burnt bones and hair, There they suffer from the delusion that they are being bitten by snakes. When they are in heat, they glow; and when they approach heaven, they become cold as ice, which produces wretched torments.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 97

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 97

97. The monks and Jesuits who have behaved like this under a pretext of piety, and on account of pity for then, with a pledge that they forgive sins, are also sent to Gehenna.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 98

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 98

98. On the correspondence of the organs devoted to reproduction in either sex

Those societies which correspond to the genitals are distinct from others, because that region in the body too is distinct.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 99

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 99

99. Those who love children and bring them up in heaven make up the province of the genital organs, especially of the testicles and the cervix of the uterus; and they lead a most sweet and happy life.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 100

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 100

100. It is especially societies of the third heaven which correspond to those organs, since they possess conjugial love.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 101

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 101

101. In general it is to be held that the loins and the adjacent parts of the body correspond to true conjugial love, and consequently to those societies where that love is. The angels there are more celestial than others, and excel others in their state of innocence and peace, and live in its pleasures which are inmost.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 102

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 102

102. There appeared to me some trees planted in a wooden trough, one of which was tall, another shorter, and two small ones. The shorter tree pleased me greatly, and at the same time a most agreeable feeling of restfulness which I cannot express came over my mind. The angelic spirits interpreted this vision for me, saying that conjugial love was represented, the restfulness and peace of which was actually felt mentally; the tall tree meant the husband, the shorter one the wife, and the two small ones children. They added that those who belong to the province of the loins are in such an agreeable state of peace.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 103

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 103

103. I saw a great dog, such as that called Cerberus by the most ancient writers; his jaws gaped horribly. It was said that such a dog means guarding, so that man should not pass from heavenly conjugial love to the infernal love of adultery. When the former love passes into that opposed to it, though the pleasure seems almost the same, then such a figure is presented to guard against the opposed pleasures communicating.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 104

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 104

104. The inmost heaven, through which the Lord introduces conjugial love, is composed of those who there exceed the others in peace. Peace in the heavens is relatively like spring on earth, which makes everything pleasant and lively; it is heavenly pleasure itself in its essence. The angels who are there are the wisest of all, and as the result of their innocence they appear to others like children. They love children even more than their fathers and mothers loved them, and are present with pregnant women.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 105

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 105

105. Each and every member and organ devoted to reproduction in either sex corresponds to heavenly societies. These are distinct from others, just as that province in man is quite distinct from the rest. Those who have most tenderly loved children, as such mothers, are in the province of the uterus and the surrounding organs, that is, the cervix of the uterus and the ovaries. Those who are there lead the sweetest and loveliest lives and are in heavenly joy above others.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 106

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 106

106. But it was not permitted to know which and of what kind those societies are which belong to the individual reproductive organs, for they are interior. They have reference to the uses of those organs, which are hidden, and also removed from knowledge; for the reason is a dispensation of Providence, to Prevent things which in themselves are most heavenly from being damaged by filthy thoughts belonging to lasciviousness, whorings, and adultery. These thoughts are called forth in many people as soon as those organs are named. From the ARCANA COELESTIA [n. 5055]

Marr (Chadwick) n. 107

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 107

107. It is enough to know that truly conjugial love has direct communication with the third heaven, and also that love itself with its heavenly pleasure is preserved there in all its variety, together with acts such as kissing, embracing and many more things which give pleasure to that heaven. For that heaven is in communication with good affections, while the spiritual heaven is in communication with thoughts of truth. From this it is clear that filthy affections and thoughts completely close either heaven.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 108

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 108

108. I saw a mortar, and a man standing by with an iron tool, who in his delusion seemed to himself to be pounding up men, inflicting dire agonies on them. This man was doing it with great pleasure; the pleasure itself was communicated to me so that I should know of what kind and how great their pleasure is who are of such a nature - it was an exceedingly infernal pleasure. I was told that such pleasure was dominant among the descendants of Jacob, and they took no greater pleasure than in cruelly treating Gentiles, exposing their corpses to be eaten by wild beasts and birds, cutting them while alive with saws and axes, putting them in a brick-kiln, 2 Sam. xii 31, dashing children together and casting them out. Such things were nowhere ordered, nor ever permitted, except to those who had the sinew of the thigh out of joint, as happened to Jacob when he wrestled with the angel, Genesis xxxii 26, 32, 33. Such people live beneath the right heel, where are the adulterers who are also cruel. Among the adulterers who are also cruel and completely pitiless are many Jesuits and monks who were adulterers. Their pleasure is similar when they look on capital punishment, especially while [they see punished those who] do anything to detract from their tyrannous power over the Church and heaven, and over men's souls, as well as those who infringe their privileges.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 109

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 109

109. Those who had lived in the opposites of conjugial love, that is, in adulteries, when they approached me, caused pain in my loins, the intensity of which varied according to the adulterous life they had led. From this it was plain that the loins correspond to conjugial love. Moreover, their hell is under the rear part of the loins, beneath the buttocks, where they live in filthy and excrementitious conditions; and these are actually a pleasure to them, for such are the correspondences of their pleasures in the spiritual world.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 110

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 110

110. Those who are in the opposites of conjugial love also inflict pain on the testicles. They are those who deceive by love, friendship and services. The following describes such people. There arose from the region surrounding Gehenna a sort of airy and hardly visible object: it was a group of such spirits. But it then appeared to me to be as one, as if a single person, although there were many, in whose way were placed kinds of bindings. These, however, he seemed to remove for himself; this was a sign that they wished to remove obstacles, for it is thus that thoughts and mental efforts appear when represented in the world of spirits; and on their appearance it is instantly perceived what they mean. Afterwards it seemed as if a small snow-white man emerged from his body, who approached me; this signified their thought and intent, that they wish to assume a state of innocence, so that no one should harbour any such suspicion of them. When he came to me, he plunged down towards the loins, and seemed to twist about either of them; this represented their being in chaste conjugial love. Then he spiralled down around my feet; this meant insinuation by means of such things as are pleasant in nature. Finally that one small man became almost invisible; this meant that they wished to hide themselves completely. I was told that such insinuation was practised by those who seek to ensnare conjugial love; that is, those who in the world have insinuated themselves with a view to committing adultery with wives, by speaking chastely and sensibly about conjugial love, patting their children on the head, praising their husband in every kind of speech, so that he is finally believed to be a friend and harmless, when in fact he was a deceitful adulterer. Accordingly it was shown what these people become, for after this had happened that small snowy figure which represented the group rising from Gehenna was made clearly visible, and it appeared murky and very dark, and very ugly as well; and it was cast down into a deep hell under the middle of the loins, where they live among things relating to excrement. I also spoke afterwards with similar persons, and they were surprised that anyone had a conscience as regards adulteries, so that he would not for conscience's sake sleep with someone else's wife when he could; and when I spoke with them about conscience, they said that no one has a conscience. I was told that such people are for the most part from the Christian countries, and there are rarely any from other parts of the world.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 111

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 111

111. Few people today know what true conjugial love is and what is its origin, because few are in it. Almost all believe that it is inborn and thus emanates from a kind of instinct, as they say; and they believe this the more because a conjugial principle exists among animals, when there is such a difference between conjugial love with human beings and the conjugial principle with beasts, as there is between the state of a human being and that of a brute animal.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 112

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 112

112. Conjugial love takes its origin from the marriage of the Lord with heaven and with the Church, and consequently from the marriage of good and truth. It is not apparent to the senses or comprehension that conjugial love takes its inmost essence from that source; but it can be established from influx and from correspondence, as well as from the Word. From influx: heaven is compared to a marriage, and is called a marriage, from the union of good and truth, which flows in from the Lord. From correspondence: when good united with truth flows down into a lower sphere, it produces a union of minds; when into an even lower sphere, it produces a marriage. Therefore the union of minds from good united with truth proceeding from the Lord is conjugial love itself.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 113

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 113

113. That this is the origin of true conjugial love can also be established from the fact that no one can be in it unless he is in good by means of truth, and in truth from good proceeding from the Lord; also from the fact that there is blessedness and heavenly happiness in that love, and all who are in it come into heaven or the heavenly marriage; also from the fact that when there is talk among the angels of the union of good and truth, then in the lower region among good spirits a representation of marriage is produced, but among wicked spirits a representation of adultery. This is why the adulteration of good and the falsification of truth are called adultery and whoring.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 114

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 114

114. The men of the Most Ancient Church lived in true conjugial love to a greater degree than any other inhabitants of this planet. They are those who were described by the ancients as having lived in the golden age, when innocence, love, and justice reigned; their heaven was in that love. But among their successors, after the loss of acknowledgment of the Lord and consequently love to Him, conjugial love was lost though the love of children remained. But children can be loved even by the wicked, whereas a wife can only be loved by the good.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 115

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 115

115. It was heard from the most ancient men that conjugial love is such that the one wishes to be utterly the other's and vice versa, so that their feelings are mutual and reciprocal; also that the conjunction of two minds is such that these mutual and reciprocal feelings extend to every detail of thought.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 116

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 116

116. I spoke with angels about these mutual and reciprocal feelings and it was described how the image of one is in the other's mind and that thus they cohabit not only in single acts but also in the inmost things of life; and the Divine Love of the Lord can flow into such a one with blessedness and happiness. They said too that those who lived in the world in such conjugial love are together and cohabit in heaven as angels; [sometimes] together with their children; but that there are very few from Christian countries today, but all from the Most Ancient Church, which was celestial, and many from the Ancient Church, which was spiritual.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 117

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 117

117. I was told that the merely universal kinds of celestial and thence of spiritual happiness are infinite in number and ineffable, and hardly any of them are known in Christian countries, because they are not in the marriage of good and truth, nor in love to the Lord. They do not know whence good comes and thus what truth is, neither do they know that the Lord alone is God of the universe.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 118

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 118

118. With those who live in conjugial love the interiors of their minds are open through heaven right to the Lord, for that love flows in from the Lord through man's inmost. Thus they have the Lord's kingdom within themselves, and thus they have true love of infants, which is on account of the Lord's kingdom; and thus they are more receptive than others of celestial loves, and are more than others in mutual love. For this love comes from this source like a stream from its spring. For from the marriage of good and truth descend and are derived all loves, which are like that of parents for their children, the love of brothers among themselves, and love for relations, thus in order according to their degrees. These loves are solely from the marriage of good and truth. From this marriage are formed all the societies of heaven, according to their relationships by blood and kinship, and equally in each society; hence heaven is called a marriage.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 119

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 119

119. True conjugial love is impossible except between couples, that is, in the marriage of one man with one wife; and not with many wives, because conjugial love is mutual and reciprocal, and the life of each is in that of the other, so that they are as one. Such a union is possible between couples, but not between more, since more tear that love apart. The men of the Most Ancient Church, who were celestial and as well able to perceive good and truth as the angels, had only one wife. They said that with one wife they experienced celestial delights and happiness, and that they shuddered at the bare mention of marriage with several wives; it is evident that the marriage of one wife and one husband descends from the marriage of good and truth from the Lord's words in Matthew xix 3-12, which see and quote; also from Adam's words about his wife. By Adam and his wife in that passage is meant in the internal representative sense the Most Ancient Church, which was the golden age, the time of Saturn, which the ancient writers mention.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 120

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 120

120. I observed the opposite with adulterers; how they felt sick at marriage and everything to do with it, so they could look on their wife, but could not put any life into talking with her; they so loathed everything to do with her, though when formerly man and wife they had loved and taken delight in these things. But as soon as they see someone else's pretty wife, or another sees the wife of the first, they are inflamed with desire, a fiery life lights up their faces and eyes and they find delight in all the details which the husband loathes; and he acts in the same way when he sees other women.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 121

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 121

121. There was a certain spirit at a middling height who in bodily life had lived lasciviously, taking pleasure in variety, so that he loved no woman constantly, but spent his time in brothels, and thus committed fornication with many women, whom he afterwards rejected one by one. By this means it came about that he extinguished all desire for marriage and acquired an unnatural nature. All these things were exposed, and when he attempted similar tricks in the spiritual world, he was severely punished, and this in full view of angels, and then cast into a hell which is such that there appears there as it were scum* such as on the surface of seas; these are nasal mucus and almost devoid of life, because they have destroyed everything human, because they have destroyed everything of heaven, which is based upon conjugial love.
*The Latin word means literally 'husks'.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 122

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 122

122. It is clear that they cannot be in heaven, for just as they are against the love of marriage, so they are against affections for good and truth, from which heaven arose. For when marriage is mentioned there, filthy ideas at once come up, from the influx into the opposite. Their ideas contain obscene, or rather unspeakable things; and their intention is to destroy heavenly societies. Their religious belief consists in saying that they believe in a Creator of the universe, a merely universal Providence, salvation by faith alone, and they say that no worse can happen to them than others. But when they are examined to see what they are like at heart, as they are in the other life, they do not even believe these things, but in nature as the creator of the universe, in no providence instead of a universal one; they think nothing of faith; and regard religion as the shackle to keep the common people living a moral life. In the case of those in whom adulteries have produced distaste and loathing for marriage, anything pleasant, blessed, and happy which reaches them from heaven is turned into something loathsome and distasteful, then painful, and finally foul-smelling; or in other cases into obscene things.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 123

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 123

123. They wish to lay siege to man, and return in the man to the world, but they are prevented from speaking with man.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 124

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 124

124. The conjugial principle is everywhere represented in the realms of nature, as by the metamorphosis of caterpillars into pupae and chrysalises, and thus into flying insects. When the time comes for their mating, which is when they shed their earthly form, in which they resemble worms, they are adorned with wings and become flying insects. Then they soar into the air, as it were into their own heaven; there they play together, mate, lay eggs on leaves, and feed on the juices of flowers. They are then in their beauty, for they have wings of various colours, gold, silver, blue, white, and in other cases with beautiful markings and variegated. These are the effects of the conjugial principle on such insignificant creatures.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 125

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 125

125. Those whose lust is for the deflowering of virgins, those, that is, who take the greatest pleasure in virginities and their theft without marriage as an object, and when they have stolen the flower of virginity abandon the girls; those who have led such a life, because it is contrary to their spiritual and celestial nature, and because they destroy the conjugial principle (for this is all they have in view in the flower of virginity, and once it is plucked they do not love the girls any more); and because it is contrary to innocence, which they injure and kill by driving innocent girls, who would otherwise have been chaste and capable of being filled with conjugial love, to a life of prostitution, and they are thus destroyers of marriages - it is well known that it is the first flowering of love which brings virgins into chaste conjugial love and joins the minds of married couples; and because the holiness of heaven is based upon conjugial love and so on innocence, and these men are such inward murderers; they undergo a most severe punishment in the other life. They are brought into a state of delusion in which actions appear real and produce sensation. They then seem to themselves to be riding a wild horse, which throws them so that they fall with apparent risk to their lives, such is the terror which is induced in them. Afterwards they seem to themselves to be under the wild horse's belly, and then they seem to enter the horse's belly through its hind parts. It then appears to them as if they were in the belly of a filthy whore; she is then changed into a great dragon, and there they remain wrapped in torture. This punishment comes back as often as they feel that lust and approach young virgins with their trickery. Others are punished by being stretched first one way and then the other, or twisted first one way and then the other; they are so torn apart by these violent movements that they seem to themselves to be rent into pieces or fragments with immense pain; and if they do not then desist, they are cast into a foul-smelling hell.

Marr (Chadwick) n. 126

Marriage (Chadwick) n. 126

126. Those who have lascivious thoughts in the life of the body, and twist anything others say, even holy things, into lasciviousness, these do not desist from thinking and speaking in this way in the other life; and since there their thoughts are shared, so that they emerge as obscene representations causing offence, their punishment is in front of the spirits they have injured to be stretched out horizontally and rotated at high speed like a cylinder from left to right; and then crosswise in another plane, and then in another. They suffer this naked in the sight of all, or half-naked, depending on the nature of. their lasciviousness, and at the same time they are smitten with shame. Then they are revolved head over heels about a transverse axis; this induces a reaction and pain at the same time,* for there are two forces acting, one circular and one backwards; this causes a painful pulling apart.

N.B. N.B. For more on this subject see in the first extracts under adultery, prostitute, lasciviousness, marriage. Also in the collected passages from the ARCANA COELESTIA. Especially from the collected passages on the Revelation, and in the extracts from the work on HEAVEN AND HELL, as also from the remainder.
* This clause appears twice in the Latin.